Some of you
might have heard my exciting news already... For those of you who weren't in
church on July 15, or haven't heard it through the grapevine or seen it on
Facebook, I'm engaged to be married! This is, of course, a happy and exciting
time for my fiancé Brian and me. We are basking in the warm wishes of our
family and friends, and looking forward to our future together. We are also in
the whirlwind of wedding plans, since those take between 6 and 18 months to
coordinate. It's been less than two weeks, and many ideas are already flitting
around... Which brings me to my thoughts for today: our best laid plans almost
never work out as we expect.
This past
week, Brian and I visited his family, and our friends, in Chicago (where I went
to seminary). While there, we attended the first birthday party of a friend's
neice. This was a rather extravagant bash for a one-year old, complete with
outdoor tented seating, a bounce-house, and a three-tier Mickey Mouse cake
covered in fondant. Needless to say, the birthday girl is teething and was less
than festive, and the summer heat forced the guests inside for much of the
party. The birthday girl's mother was stressed, worried about her teething
child, and upset that the little girl didn't get to "enjoy" her bash.
Most of the guests, however, thought the party was a hit, enjoyed the food, and
cooed over the sweet baby. This party wasn't successful because of the
decorations, or the cake, or the bounce-house. The carefully color-coordinated food
choices mostly went unnoticed, and all the plans and worries added up only to
stressful planning.
This was an
excellent lesson for me: all the plans in the world will never add up to what
is in the imagination. The dreams are never the reality, and if the dreams are
a guide and not an exact template, we can enjoy the reality that much better.
In a 2010
edition of O Magazine, a woman wrote
about her experience letting go of her plans while on vacation. She wrote,
“what if, instead of meticulously planning, I were to just show up in a new
place and let the experience unfold?” She explains how, using prewritten cards
with questions (in Japanese text, written by a friend), she asked strangers
where to eat, where to stay, and their recommendations for things to do. She
literally had no plans, and let her experience unfold. According to the
article, it was an amazing adventure.
I am not the
Buddha. Letting go of details is not my strong suit. Living in the moment is
difficult for me. I imagine some of you are in the same boat with me. But, as I
embark on this second year as your Faith Development Minister, I hope to “let
go” more often. I will still plan, and organize, and create lists and
spreadsheets, but my #1 goal for this year is to allow the adventure to unfold,
to allow the brilliant, hardworking, and committed members of this church
follow their spirits, and my job will be to follow in support, joining in the adventure.
And meanwhile, I
will also be planning my wedding, but not down to the very last detail…
-Rev.
Christina
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